What If every child could wish for whatever they want? Would magic be a great idea or not?
Let’s explore our value systems in realic life. What is true magic anyway?
“Many parents of today’ generation rob their children of childhood by buying them thier own fantasies as they attempt to give devleoping minds “magic” to be loved in return. This is so heartbreaking.
It is normal for us as parents to want to wish our kids to have better than we had when we were young. But, you MUST hold back or you will be withholding the greatest gifts of all.
Please don’t be stiffeling a child’s own creaativity; a stepping stone to their destiny.
So, my answer is NO. Getting every fantasy wish for would not be a good choice for any one. Never woud eating ice cream day after day be a good thing, either.
Sure, as kids we all cried with at times when our parents said we could not have that one thing we dreamed of.
As a child I wished to Mommy with 100 kids. I sure am glad I got another think on that one.
One of my children dreamed about living at K-Mart_that may be a much smarter Idea than I had at age 3.
But, we all grew stronger in spite of disappointment. Why would I say that when we can buy our kids their dream toys today?” says Malika Bourne the No Non-cents Nanna.
One of my 6 grandchildren painted this picture a few years ago when she was in kindegarten. Is this refrigerator art as valuable as Micheal Angelos’ painting in the Cistine Chappel ceiling? Waht child does not believe their painting the is best-er-est any kid EVER did in the whole wide world?
“As valuable?” Ha-ha! I kid you not!
This old No Non-cents Nanna says it is more priceless than any famous art work ever!But lest not over-inflate the ego nor cut them to shreds over their creatiively not being marketable.
Let’s keep it real!
- It is only a fantasy to get a Gold Medal of a Million Bucks adn tiara for every thing we do.
- Because this child put her heart and soul along with her imagination to place the colors on the paper where she pictured in her head they do deserve our feed back.
- We can help the child explore what she/ he imagined by observing and asking questions something like this:
“Jane, I see a big yellow sunshine with a smiling face, tell me what you were thinking about when you painted this…”
“Carl, these colorful flowers are really something. Some are bigger and some are smalller and they are different colors. How ever did you choose which one would be big or small or blue even?”
There is no right nor wrong answer when a child answers with their heart- not what we the adults prompt them to say.
I know most grow-ups look at a crappy piece of paper with blobs of paint on it knowing full well that no one would pay $1,000,000 for that ‘junk’, yet, exclaim “Oh pretty!” (LIAR LIAT pant son Fire!)…
…before YOU throw that materpiece in the trash.
(Not me! I try to keep every one of those creatiionsuntill they become a fire hazard or grape juice gets spilled on it..)
We can dismiss the imagination as garbage…we are too busy working for money to buy the kid what they want…but, all our children really want is for us to appreciate their efforts by taking time to explore the magic of their dreams, not hands over those things with a price tag.
Face to face: Make eye contact
Be quiet to listen what the child says. There will be magic in his/ her words as she uhms and a-a-a-a-h’s with inept wording to describe the painting or a pciture on a stick. Let me tell this: your child will always treasure these moments when you listened, really LISTENED to their words even if their ideas are only imaginary.
Don’t we ALL want to live in Sleeping Beauty’s Castle?
Well, yeah! Who as a child did not dream of being a fairy tale protagonist or princess?
We can’t all live at Disneyland even if you live within walking distance -and we did in the 1970’s. I can tell you this: As thrilling as it is to go on the Pirates of the Caribean ride 6 times in a row-just because you always dreamedof it-becomes as boring as making your bed and brushing your teeth everyday!
But every kid will appreciate that dream come true when earn the fantasy vacation after a lot of sweat from hard work of daily chores.
My grandson mowing the lawn build character. I know, he may not be so hot on this idea this year.
- Parents have to work to pay the bills and admssion. Unless you work at the magic Kingdom playing a character for minimum wage.
- Fulfilling fantacies now and then is so much fun! YAY!
- What is even better that going to Disneyland every day is planning as a family on how to save up to pay the admission; buy the food and transportaion to get there.
“Princess Charlotte has a Grand Jewelry Box to Borrow From”, the headline read…
I’m not jealous of the wealth that William and Kate’s new baby girl will inherit.
I AM a bit concerned that the new little princess will ever be able to experience the real beauty dreaming and hoping and wishing or scheming how to get her royal parents the present EVER just because she loves them!
Here is on of my 6 grandchildren all decked up in cheap plastic beads shestrung herself feeling like a beautiful princess.
There is so much wealth in the true magic in the imagination of a child.
Don’t steal away a child’s dreams…
In Disney’s version of Cinderella, Ella sings, “A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes.”
As much as we parents want to protect our kids or the cruel harshness of the world, we should not steal their dreams by fixing everything for them.
- Children have to learn to fail a number of times before they appreciate success.
When do buy them every fantasy it is kind of like buying them tickets to a Magic Show them revealing all of the tricks of the trade of the Magician illusions.
There is no magic when you know how the illussion is pulled off; Not FUN!
The best play things are gfits form the Earth:
- trees to climb in
- rocks to pile up
- dirt to dig in
- sticks to poke things with ( don’t poke eye out, tho’)
- bits of string or wire
- cuddling with peopele yoy love and trust
- scraps of cloth or an old sheet
- kitchen ingredients
- paper and penciles
- old magazine pictures
- old socks
- used paper sacks
- soap and water
- empty boxes
Fun ideas from Nanna family albums:
Oh, yeah, I love to make a mess as long as we clean it up. It is all a learning experience and that is 1/2 the magic!
Look at Nanna get a relaxing facial with fruit…
Moving boxes can be a child’s fantasy come true!
We made a car from a box.
Read to chidlren when they are small.Then encourage them to make up their own stories.
Not exactly a best selling novel, noraninvitation to dine at the White House…
Encourage kids to explore nature to discover the gifts of the Earth.
Well Bibity Bobbity -BOO! With imagination, a silly hat and decorated empty paper towel roll there is MAGIC! in the air!
I encourage all you families to spend quality time together using creativety and imagination vs buying the kids every thing they wish for.
In life there are no magic wands nor would getting every wished for wish be a good idea.
Imagining the what if I did this or what IF I did that what could happen? (Hopefully not blow the house up.) How far would that imagination cary the child into the future when they figured it out them selves?
I am Malika Bourne the No NOn-cents Nanna saying,” Make good choices.”
Now it is your turn:
After reading this take a look at your family photos. Do they refective creativity that promotes imagination or spending money?
NO, look at your child. Look deep into their eyes as you listen to their creativity_the magic of their imagination!
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